There’s no doubt that women are very perceptive creatures, which makes flirting with and dating them something of a potential minefield. Thankfully, it can be easily navigated when you know what you’re doing and how it influences everything. One of these influential elements in flirting is your speech. Some scientists are actually able to tell where you’re from, how you grew up and what profession you have, just by listening to you talk. Of course, women aren’t quite as good as that (unless they actually are one of these scientists), but they can decide if they want to see you again, partially due to your manner of speaking. So to have your date go to your advantage, keep the following in mind:
The Speed of Your Speech
Depending on your career, your last presentation was either in school or a week ago. If you’ve gone through a full preparation, you will have checked how long your presentation goes without an audience. After the actual presentation, you might notice one thing: you’ve spoken faster than without an audience. By this example you can see how relevant the speed at which you talk is. When you’re nervous, you’ll talk much faster. While it’s alright to be slightly nervous on a date, it becomes annoying for your date when your speech becomes so fast that she can barely catch-up with what you’re saying, let alone get a word in. The opposite, a very slow manner of speaking, gives off the impression of being inattentive and especially slow in the thinking department.
The Volume of Your Speech
Just like in the previous point, there are only two extremes that you should avoid, but are easy to fall prey to, unless you know their origin. Being too quiet while talking will make you look meek and shy. Unless she happens to like her men that way, this will cause trouble. To avoid making this mistake, try to move your center of speech from the back of your throat to your chest and belly area. Even though this area is not directly related to your organ of speech, imagining it will help your voice resonate more. Another plus is that your voice will deepen slightly. The other end is speaking too loudly, which will make you obnoxious and very domineering. Not to mention that she might feel embarrassed by the attention you’re drawing. In this case, keep your center of speech to your throat area to remove the resonance.
As pointed out before, the way you speak tells where you’re from and that doesn’t only refer to the state you hail from. Highly educated people naturally tend to use more scientific vocabulary, especially when talking about their area of expertise, but might come across as arrogant. A good solution is to imitate her way of talking, though don’t use words you don’t know the meaning of and use scientific vocabulary sparingly. A nice side-effect of picking up her vocabulary is that you show that you’re both similar.