“Take her out for shopping to keep her around”
When you’re just taking a woman home to get it on and then plan on bailing, you’re trying to get a very typical hook up. But sometimes it doesn’t work out that way. She could be really great in bed or you actually wind up liking her for more than sex. Women can be really awesome to be around, even with clothes on. It doesn’t always happen, but you could end up liking this woman more than you thought you could. The hard part is actually going to be keeping her around after the hook up. Most likely she’s on your level and thought that only sex was happening. Luckily for you it’s not that hard to take it from sex to something more.
Offer Her Food
Having sex is a serious workout. You sweat and pump and get really tired. So, besides sleep, what’s the first thing that you want? Food. Why not have it with her? Offer to make something for her or even just get a bite to eat together. Taking the first step toward hanging out together outside of the bedroom is really easy when you’re both trying to satisfy the second base human instinct of hunger.
Do Something Before the Sex
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“Help her relax first”
So of course you want to get to making sweet, sweet sexy times with her, but there’s always opportunity to do something else first. When she gets over to your place or vice versa, ask if she’d like to watch a movie. Movies are totally non-committal ways of doing something together that doesn’t take a lot of thought or energy (gotta save up for later). Even if you don’t make it all the way through the movie and end up making out, at least you had some bonding time.
Change Your Plans
When you have plans to hook up, change them at the last minute. Text her or call her with the news, but ask if she’d like to do something else instead. It could be something like “I totally forgot that I made plans to go to this show tonight. But I’d still really like to see you. If I pay will you be my date?” She might seem hesitant if she has to pay to hang out with you, so offering to take care of that will give her a free ride and some time with you. After that it should get easier to do things outside of the bedroom together.
Talk to Her
It’s not always something that guys immediately think to do, but chances are if you talk to her about wanting to be more than just friends with benefits, she’ll listen. She may or may not agree, but you being open and honest about the whole thing is going to make it way more likely for her to want to sort of date you instead of just sex you. Women are totally suckers for romantic stuff, so really include how you feel about her. Just make sure you avoid strong words like “love” so she doesn’t get freaked out.