The last thing on your profile for most online dating sites is the “message me if” section. You know how it usually goes. “You should message me if you like the same music,” etc. It’s a snooze fest most of the time, and if you have a boring section there you’re killing your chances with the ladies. This is the last thing they’re going to see before they make up their mind to message you or not.
Use the Call to Action Ideal
Any man who’s familiar with sales or marketing knows about the call to action. Anyone who’s not familiar with that concept has still seen it in action over and over again. A call to action is the tagline at the end of the ad that says to “act now while supplies last”, or otherwise actually tell the reader, listener, or viewer to do something. They’re highly affective and very commonly used. If you want to get the most reaction for your message me section, treat yourself like a product you’re trying to sell. Flat out tell the ladies viewing your profile that they should message you now.
Offer Something Specific
You should be clear about exactly what she’s going to get out of a conversation with you. You shouldn’t jump to asking her out in the message me if section. That’s not personal and will turn her off. However, you should be able to offer a little more than a mutual agreement about what makes for good music, film, or literature. Even asking to debate on politics would be better than saying that you’d just like to talk about a band. Instead, bring up specific conversation topics. If you’re really into music, say that they should message you now if they want to debate the raw purity of your favorite band’s first CD compared to the slick professionalism of their second. Say that you want to hear about more good places to go out to eat in your city because you’re sick of cooking for yourself every night. Bring up specific things and she’ll even have a handy ice breaker on her side. By doing most of the work for her, you’ll find that you get more messages from women who would otherwise be too shy to approach you.
Keep It Concise
Most of the time you want to fill out your profile so that women really get to know you. However, the message me section should be a sweet little hook that you sink into them that gets them to message you. You don’t want to mess things up right at the end, and you also don’t want to give her time to reconsider. Make your message me section short, sweet, and end on the strong call to action that will get her to actually click the button and send a message your way.
Follow these tips and your dating life will get a lot easier. It doesn’t always have to be down to you to pick out the women you want to talk to. Let the women come to you and you can have your pick without a lot of work on your part.