Talking to women on online dating sites can be frustrating in many regards. It can be difficult enough to get a response from a woman, much less hold a conversation with her over time. The last thing you want to do is ruin your chances by making her uncomfortable early on in the relationship. One of the biggest mistakes you can make when chatting with a woman online is asking her to meet up too soon. It sucks, but if you ask too early, you’re probably going to be ignored or flat-out refused. Knowing when you can and should start asking her to meet up will help you avoid ruining a good thing.
Gauging Her Interest before Asking
“Try to anticipate her interests”
It’s important to determine how interested a woman is in you before you try to ask her to meet up. You might have waited several days already, but if she’s not interested enough in meeting up with you yet, it will be a bad time to ask. Each woman is different with how quickly she will be comfortable meeting up, but she’s not going to want to unless she’s interested in you. You should look at how quickly she responds to your messages and how much effort she puts in to the messages she sends you. If she responds fairly quickly on average and her messages are somewhat lengthy, she’s probably interested enough to meet with you.
Determining How Difficult It Will Be to Meet Up
“You have to make the efforts to reach her”
If you live particularly far away from each other, it’s going to be more difficult to meet up. If you have conflicting work schedules or other obligations that will keep you busy for most of the day, this will also increase the difficulty of meeting. It’s important to take this into consideration before you ask her to meet up. You need to make sure it’s not going to be too difficult to meet up, because she may turn you down if it’s going to be a long trip for her. Planning carefully will allow you to find the best time and way to meet up before you even ask her, which will definitely increase your chances of getting her to agree to meet.
Knowing Exactly When to Ask Her
After taking these two factors into consideration, it’s still difficult to know when to ask a girl to meet up. Some women don’t mind being asked first thing, and some women want to wait quite a while before they meet up with the guy they’ve been talking to online. It’s always going to be a slight game of risk, but make sure to never ask too early. Wait until you’ve established a decent connection with her and you can hold a decent conversation. She needs time to get comfortable with you and know that you’re going to be worth the time and effort that it takes to meet up. Make sure to ask her how she would feel about meeting up instead of just asking her straight-up if she wants to meet up with you.