Far too often, men go about attracting plus size women the wrong way. For one reason or another, some men like to think that the way to attract plus size women is to talk about how much they like a big woman. In most cases, this actually ends up backfiring for men and they quickly find that these women are not interested in them. Believe it or not, we’ve seen some pretty decent looking men being turned down by heavy women simply because of how they approached them. If you want to let a plus size woman know that you’re interested in her, the smartest thing you can do is not focus on her size.
Tell Her That’s She’s Beautiful
“Buying her gifts will make her feel special”
When you tell a plus size woman that you think she is beautiful, she may not believe you. She may think that you’re teasing her or that you’re simply hoping that her self-esteem is low enough that a simple compliment will get you laid. It is for this reason why you can’t simply tell her that she’s beautiful. You have to give some actual details without making her appearance seem like a fetish.
An easy to compliment a plus size woman on her beauty is by telling her why you think she’s beautiful. Do not say something like, “I love big woman,” or “I hate skinny woman.” All this does is show her that you’re only interested in her because of fetish. Instead, compliment her on her choice of clothing, or tell her that she’s simply gorgeous. You can use those cheesy lines that talk about how the color of the clothing she’s wearing brings out the color of her eyes. Let her know that you assumed you didn’t have a chance with her, but that you wanted to introduce yourself anyway. This always seems to flatter women in general.
Buy Her a Drink, Not a Meal
“Buying her a meal might backfire”
Another way men royally mess up when it comes to plus size women is by offering to buy them drinks in addition to a meal. Just because a woman is heavy doesn’t mean she appreciates you offering to by her food. Even if you typically buy all women meals, avoid buying a plus size woman one. You also shouldn’t offer your own food to her. In fact, the only time you should bring up food is if she does first, or if you’re a chef.
If she happens to bring up food first, try finding out what she likes. Offer to cook for her one day, or to take her out to her favorite place. Do not tell her anything like she can have whatever she wants, or to eat to her heart’s content. She will think you’ll end up getting off on some type of eating fetish.
Always keep in mind that the best way to attract a plus size woman is to treat her as you would a slim woman. Ask her about herself and don’t focus on her body. Save that until you’re in the bed with her and show her exactly what her curves do to you.