Your first message is your first impression with a woman. You’re not going to get another chance to hook her interest like this so you have to make it count. When you’re considering how to open you should keep these four tips in mind. They’ll help you craft an opening message that helps you stand out and gets you the attention that you deserve.
Stating a Strong Opinion
One of the worst things that you can seem online is bland. You don’t want her to think of you as some oatmeal grey, simple man without any thoughts or reactions. The best way to combat this is to open up with an opinion on a shared interest. Do you both like a movie series that changed directors halfway through? Pick one or the other and open with that. That’s the kind of engaging thing that will make her either happy to agree with you or eager to point out where you went wrong. As long as you don’t go too far and not sound like a jerk, you’ll be fine whether she agrees with you or not.
Asking a Question Not about Opinions
You don’t want to open your first message with a question about her opinions. You might think that it’s a really good opener that shows an interest in her, but it actually is boring. You’re obviously trying to get to know her, and that false interest is something more ladies can smell a mile off. Instead of trying to butter her up by asking the “right” questions you can open with a question that’s not about opinions. Try asking her whether or not she’s seen a specific movie or if she’s involved with a local political campaign. These questions don’t automatically come off as a way to get into her pants.
With a Short Joke
If she describes herself as shy in her profile then it’s a good idea to open with a joke. You might be able to snap off a one liner in real life, but take the time when you’re writing out your message to make a good joke. You can find tons of them online with a simple search so there’s no excuse for telling a so-so joke. Once you’ve gotten her to giggle, you can continue to loosen her up with a casual demeanor that tells a shy lady that there’s nothing to worry about here.
Providing Some News
If she seems like a serious woman then the best way to open her up is to comment on some national or world wide news story. Whether you’re dealing with a natural disaster or a political scandal you shouldn’t treat it as gossip. Once you’ve mentioned the article, throw out some opinions on it. You want to be interesting, so take a stand. There’s nothing less attractive than a man who can’t make up his mind. When you bring something up, attach some meaning to it. Even if you don’t take a stand like something is right or wrong, you could at least say whether or not you think that this development will have a big impact on the world.